{"id":85222,"date":"2020-04-02T15:00:00","date_gmt":"2020-04-02T22:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.vivaglammagazine.com\/?p=62953"},"modified":"2023-08-22T11:33:36","modified_gmt":"2023-08-22T18:33:36","slug":"the-scientific-reason-why-we-desire-that-one-person-that-we-cant-have-2-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vivaglammagazine.com\/the-scientific-reason-why-we-desire-that-one-person-that-we-cant-have-2-2\/","title":{"rendered":"The Scientific Reason Why We Desire That One Person That We Can\u2019t Have"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you\u2019ve been single for some time, but have been open to dating<\/a> and putting yourself out there, you\u2019re pretty familiar with the case of wanting what we can\u2019t have. While it\u2019s true in childhood, social media (craving other people\u2019s lives) and nutrition (we most often crave junk food<\/a> when on a diet), it\u2019s especially true when you desire a new partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

But in this case it\u2019s worse. It might lead to some harmful behavior such as overthinking, trying to get the attention of that person, living in denial (although it\u2019s a lost cause, we insist on making it happen), leaving our other goals in life behind, appearing needy, and more. And that\u2019s just because we want to be with someone who isn\u2019t interested, and with whom it\u2019s clearly not meant to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not to worry, though. It\u2019s not just you, and there\u2019s a logical explanation for your behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Science Behind Wanting What You Can\u2019t Have<\/span><\/h2>\n

It\u2019s all about how the brain works. In particular, when somebody rejects us, we want them even more as it activates a certain neurological response in our brain. It then leads to signs of addictive behavior, craving the reward (which is a person, in this case) and being quite determined to have them any way we can.<\/span><\/p>\n

This interesting study<\/span><\/a> also suggests that the person we want but can\u2019t have serves as a drug for the drug addict. What goes on in our brain, on a chemical level, is pretty much the same.<\/span><\/p>\n

How to Use This to Our Advantage<\/span><\/h2>\n

Instead of trying to go against the law of the universe and how our brain works, let\u2019s make the most of this. Now that you have the reason why you want someone you can\u2019t have, and it\u2019s backed by science, hopefully this will make it easier to let go.<\/span><\/p>\n

The following conclusions can be made as a result of the study:<\/span><\/h4>\n